~ in loving memory
hame is a powerful weapon. Shame is what sexual predators rely on. Next to alcohol it’s their preferred WMD. What were you thinking, after all, being alone, dressing like that, drinking too much, trusting too much? You should have known better. You should have known what would happen. It’s the same approach pedophiles use whenRead more about How men can help end rape[…]
I’m honoured to be speaking this coming Tuesday in Ottawa as part of a “community conversation hosted by Ottawa Coalition to End Violence Against Women (OCTEVAW).” Please come and show your support to an important group and the causes they stand up and fight for. To learn more about OCTEVAW visit their web site, joinRead more about Speaking in Ottawa Feb. 4th with OCTEVAW[…]
A California woman has posted a YouTube video of a confrontation with a woman she says sexually abused her nearly 16 years ago. “Why did you do that,” Jamie Carrillo, 28, of Victorville, asked her alleged abuser during a secretly recorded phone conversation. “I was only 12 years old when I met you. Do youRead more about Woman Calls Childhood Rapist[…]
“Like gender violence isn’t a man’s issue. Like men can’t help themselves. Like the responsibility for one’s own actions doesn’t fall on one’s own shoulders. Like men don’t have the power to change how men act.” – Jeremy Loveday [box type=”shadow” align=”aligncenter” ]Published on Sep 14, 2013 Film by Matteus Clement & Mazo Media PoemRead more about Masks Off – A Challenge to Men[…]
[box type=”shadow” align=”aligncenter” ]There is no shame when your loved one dies. When your car is stolen. When you’re diagnosed with cancer. Friends and loved ones gather around you for support. They don’t blame you for “bringing it on yourself.” It should be the same with sexual violence. But all too often, survivors who haveRead more about Start by Believing[…]
It was a pleasure to speak with Ottawa’s Julie Lalonde yesterday on her CHUO show The Third Wave. Julie has a blog post on sexual violence that briefly mentions Rehtaeh. The response she got from a “jimmy j” is simply disgusting. No surprise that person is the same one who wrote filth about Rehtaeh onRead more about Interview on The Third Wave (CHUO 89.1FM)[…]
Project Blame was created to expose the victim blaming culture that permeates within law enforcement agencies. It is in the spirit of Project Unbreakable: http://projectunbreakable.tumblr.com/. We are seeking images from sexual assault victims (either showing your face or not), who reported their assaults to the police, holding a sign that states in a sentence orRead more about Project Blame[…]
Last Thursday I had the pleasure to speak at Concordia University about the issues surrounding Rehtaeh’s life and death. I was asked to come as a keynote speaker by the Centre for Gender Advocacy as part of a larger event series: Another Word for Gender: an intro to feminist organizing & action. These are someRead more about The Centre for Gender Advocacy – Concordia[…]
If there is one thing I know it’s that victim blaming exists. It’s sad and hurtful and it is everywhere. People constantly say Rehtaeh shouldn’t have been drinking, shouldn’t have been out at night, shouldn’t have lived in Cole Harbour, …. They blame her while saying nothing at all about the people who raped her.Read more about RAPE: It’s Your Fault[…]
If a homosexual man were the victim of a hate crime, would national media outlets concentrate on what he was wearing or what he was doing to have brought on the attack? Thankfully, no. Yet, the discussion inevitably shifts to what a woman was wearing or how she was acting when she accuses someone ofRead more about Rape Culture? What Rape Culture?[…]